Wendy writes: “My intuition tells me that he is going to come back. He says it is too late for us, and is actually in a committed relationship… possibly marriage. I am totally torn. It is all-consuming. Do I continue to trust my intuition or try to move on?”
Dearest Wendy,
Your intuition is very strong, so you can always honor what you feel. In this case, however, the man you’re focused on has used the power of his words to let you know that he intends to move on (whether he does or not). His intent is there, and my sense is that he means what he says. So even if he doesn’t marry this other person, he wants to walk away — and in actuality, he has.
The real question is, what is holding you back from loving yourself SO much, that you won’t walk away from someone who intends with everything he’s made of — to move on?
So let’s look at your feeling that he might come back. My sense is that you’re still feeling his energy in your space because you haven’t let go yet, so it may be time to clear that energy out. Your inner child — the energetic presence that lives within you no matter how old you are — is hanging in there against all odds, hoping that somehow, some way, he’ll come back. And if he does, she’ll finally know that she’s worthy of love.
Hug that little girl and let her know that she IS worthy of love, NOW — that she doesn’t need to ever wait for someone else to decide he wants to be with her. Tell her she’s beautiful and perfect just the way she is. This is how you begin healing from heartbreak.
My sense is that you don’t want to move on because it’s too painful to your inner child — and thinking about this guy gives her something to hold onto. Witness her grief and her fear, and let her know that she has YOU, that you’ll never abandon or reject her, and his leaving wasn’t her fault.
When you truly love yourself, Wendy, this situation will no longer have any power over you.
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With Love,
Jessica
